I’ve seen countless couples over the years stuck in the fantastical notion that love can conquer all problems in a relationship. In other words, this is the basic misperception that one can proceed with a relationship, or continuously sustain a successful relationship, through love alone. A feeling that most of us will find quite dominant in the first months of …
Agreements are definitely not the sexiest of topics, but they do build a sense of trust and relaxation in a relationship, all of which are prerequisites to a great sex life. They are incredibly important for a host of different reasons and form the backbone of any solid relationship. My wife and I have our agreements posted up in our …
Fairness might be more important than love. A good relationship is dependent on experiencing a sense of fairness—that what you’re putting in the other is matching, roughly speaking. When the relationship is fair we feel settled in the knowing that there is a shared commitment to fostering each other’s safety, development, and expression. As social animals it is reflexive for …
In a modern day world with infinite possibilities, why did I choose to work with couples? It has a lot to do with…baseball. I’ve been interested in baseball for my entire life. As a young boy I had a great affinity for creating my own All-Star baseball teams. As a seven year old, I would grab the Sports Section and …
You could say that couples are the foundation of our society. When couples are functioning well with one another, everyone around them is more at ease and more optimistic about life in general. But when they’re dysfunctional it can be a horror show. It may even become traumatizing or re-traumatizing for everyone involved. The fact is, most of us are …
A partner, by definition is: “a pair of people engaged together in the same activity”. Yet I was personally avoiding being in an INTERDEPENDENT partnership because I was fearful that it would take away my autonomy. My ‘stuff’: my private time, my agendas, my personal activities, my peace would no longer exist.
