There’s a weekly ritual I suggest any time your relationship feels stale, passionless or fraught with negative tension. It’s a ritual that has saved countless partnerships, bringing marriages back from the brink of destruction. I basically guarantee that it will lead to more intimacy, more laughs, more connection and a renewed respect for one another. But the nature of this …
When you think of the word “Entitlement”, what comes to mind? It’s probably negative. You might think of it in a pejorative sense, like “that entitled jerk just walked in demanding a free refill on his coffee. We don’t do that here!” But I’m here to tell you that entitlement can be a good thing. And no matter what your …
I often get asked: “How do I prevent myself from taking on my partner’s feelings? And how do I make sure they’re not taking on mine?” This is a really important question. It gets to the heart of what relationships are all about…and what we should avoid in order to make sure we achieve balance with the other person. The …
If your relationship is damaged, here’s how to come back better than before… Trust sounds simple, but it’s not. If someone has broken your trust, it can feel like you should write them off entirely. Worse still, every insecurity or doubt you have about your own worthiness comes to light when someone disrespects us. If your relationship feels shattered, please know that it …
I’ve seen countless couples over the years stuck in the fantastical notion that love can conquer all problems in a relationship. In other words, this is the basic misperception that one can proceed with a relationship, or continuously sustain a successful relationship, through love alone. A feeling that most of us will find quite dominant in the first months of …
Your partner is inevitably going to let you down. You will be irritated by your partner for different reasons throughout your life, and you may find it is increasingly so at certain times, such as during the holidays or when you have a child together. This is part and parcel of being part of a functional relationship. Nobody sees the …
We all have habits, a sort of autopilot or default behavior, that we fall into during arguments if we’re not careful. These can cause the situation to escalate, because it often leads to disconnection and a feeling of resentment from one or both parties. We see our partner retreating into a habitual pattern, and we feel like they are no …
There’s a term a lot of my clients use when they express frustration at their partner’s perceived overreactions to every little thing they do—they call it walking on eggshells. It can be a pain in the ass to feel like you have to watch everything you say, and makes many people wonder whether they even want to be in the …
Today I want to cover some of the most common and insidious myths about relationships that I’ve seen circulating—both in my relationship, from couples I work with and in the relationship culture at large. These myths, despite being so prevalent, are incredibly undermining and can wreak havoc on the viability of your long term relationship. The biggest way these myths …
The idea of treating your partner like a stranger might sound weird, but the reason I think it’s important is because after a while, we all have this tendency to actually become complacent with how we speak to our partners. I notice it daily with myself, I’ll say things that I wouldn’t say to a stranger or acquaintance, or be …
